Let Go — How to Flex Your Way to Flow

Our higher mind is constantly trying to tell us something. Ideally, we need to act when inspired, when our heart responding to the signal from the higher mind, so we’ll act on our highest excitement, even with just a little step, and see a little progress every day.

To me, ‘success’ comes from compounded daily progress. BUT, I know to follow our heart, is not as simple as it sounds. We hold a lot of limiting beliefs from the past that stopping us from taking action.

Higher mind: “It’s good to be in nature”
Heart: “Go to the beach!”
Mind: “But it’s only 5pm, I can’t have fun now!”

Higher mind: “Your story can inspire thousands of people”
Heart: “Write that book!”
Mind:“I don’t have time, so busy!”

Higher Mind: “Your skills will help a lot of people”
Heart: “Start those classes you want to teach!”
Mind: “I can’t. I have a full-time job!”

Higher Mind: “Start your life mission!”
Heart: “Quit that job!”
Mind: “How am I going to eat?”

These are just small example of how your logic brain has stopping you to do what your heart desire, all because of the things in the past and how society told you how it should be.

Dr. Joe Dispenza said the brain is like a museum, the collections, and artifacts of the past. Do we really want to live our life like we’re living in a museum? If the answer is NO, then good. There are some exercises that will help you to let go of that museum and start creating a new reality you prefer.

I am someone who loves changes. I move on, fast, from heartbreak of any kind. I even change houses every two months while I’m in Bali. So I might be the right person to give you a bit tips on how to let go of your limiting beliefs.

First, recognize your resistance. What is it that you keep saying you can’t do or won’t do? Now: just do it!

Repeatedly expose yourself to it until you’re ‘numb’ and don’t feel the resistance anymore. The objective is to make it feels normal, make it feels neutral.

I have trauma with water. I almost drowned several times in my life. It’s not helping that I have super paranoid parents. In short: I can’t swim. But last year during the pandemic in Bali, I was in quarantine and have nothing else to do, I tried to get in the water every day at my swimming pool until I eventually float. I went further by snorkeling in the sea in Gili Trawangan and I even try to SURF! I never imagine that I would ever do that in my life.

If you can’t do it yet, at least, train yourself to REFRAME it and give it another meaning that is more positive for you. When you strongly dislike something, you gave your precious energy to that thing you hate. Reframe your view and quite literally, lighten up.

I used to really hate people who are not on time, strongly hate people who don’t have discipline. But now, if someone is late, I still don’t like it, but I don’t hate it. I try to look at it from other people’s perspectives. Maybe they’re super busy for the back-to-back meeting and it happens sometimes one meeting is overtime. It happens to me before, so why not be understanding when it happens to other people?

Then, check if there’s something weighing you down, whether in your mind or in your house. If you can’t simply move from house to house every two months, you keep too many things you probably won’t need.

Try to sort your stuff, Marie Kondo way. Hold the stuff and feel if it brings you joy. If it is, you can keep it. If it brings you down, throw it away or donate it. If it’s neutral but useful for the past 100 days, keep it. If it’s neutral and not useful, give it away.

Also, sort the things in your mind. Write and list down things that you worried about. Read the list one by one. If you can do anything about it in less than 5 minutes, do it now. Other than that, think about the small action you can do to diminish your worry a bit.

Say, you promise someone you’ll deliver a package on Monday and you worry that you can’t do it on Monday, call that someone now to say that you will need to reschedule.

Any ‘excess potentials’ in a form of unrealized plans, also need to be cleared. Write and list down ‘potential’ of things and ideas you’d like to do. If you can do it in less than 30 minutes, do it now. Other than that, think if you really really want to do it. If it’s not, purge it, say bye-bye to the idea. If an idea is a ‘hell yes’, take small action towards progress, it can be by calling your friend to tell you about the idea, buying a domain name, or creating a pitch deck.

Now, sort your relationship. Take a look at the people in your life. Do you have people who are toxic? These are people who constantly pessimistic, they don’t trust you, they think you’re hard to love. Please, for the love of God, LET THAT PERSON GO.

There are many ways to do it digitally. You can block them forever on all social media. Or if you don’t prefer that route, you can ghost them (which is worst) or you can answer them flatly, not trying to invest your energy in that relationship.

The last one, and also the big one, is to FORGIVE. After you let people go, you still need to forgive them. You don’t have to tell them in person, you can also write down a letter for them that you’ll never send.

I know what you think. We won’t come directly to that conclusion of forgiveness, but it’s a process of gradual change of feelings and emotions.

Start by expressing your anger, disappointment, sadness, and eventually understanding, love, and forgiveness. You can also meditate, and in your meditation, you can invite this person, and pour all your feelings, and in the end, visualize you’re hugging them and send them so much love.

These practices will help you unblock your mind, RELAX, and help you to spontaneously do more of the things that excite you the most at that moment. You’re more in flow, and you’ll have more energy to create.

The most exciting part is, when you have the energy to create, you have the energy to manifest. Isn’t it fun to desire something and watch ourselves unwrapping presents from the universe?